Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Another placement...another disappointment

We received an emergent placement of an 8.5 month old girl a couple days before Mark's birthday. This poor child was in MUCH worse condition than we were told about and the caseworker dropped her off to our house earlier than expected because this little girl was freaking her out. At times she literally appeared to be dead and Mark and I would check on her all the time in the crib just to make sure she was breathing. I have never seen such a skinny baby in my life, it was absolutely heartbreaking. We had to pad the crib and car seat otherwise her bony prominences would start to become red, this should NEVER occur in a baby!!!! We only had her for five days but they were emotionally exhausting. I took her to urgent care and a pediatrician in that short time and found her to have a major diaper rash that was so bad it burned part of her skin, a uti, a yeast infection, and an ear infection. As a nurse, I was struggling to keep her hydrated and fed. The court decided to return her home on a technicality which royally pissed me off, I was terrified she would return home and I would get a call telling me this little girl had died. When we first got her she hardly cried, it was clear she had been neglected to the point that she gave up complaining. It is hard to understand how people can treat their own flesh and blood the way they do, let alone an innocent baby! Anyway, Mark and I decided that rather than let her go home we would take her to the ER in the hope that she would be admitted. God answered our prayers and little Taylor was admitted, we were so happy and it was a huge feeling of relief. However, when I called the next day to see how she was doing, I was told she would be discharged home. The system that is supposed to protect these kids is so broken and it makes me extremely angry! It's no wonder we have generation after generation in the foster care system. I love these kids....I hate the system!! We continue to pray for Taylor and hope that should she re-enter the system she will be returned to us.